Can't We All Just Get Along?

This blog is directed towards black women. I've noticed the majority of us aren't friendly towards each other. If we don't know each other by association or at all, we won't crack a smile or even give eye-contact. Giving a friendly smile won't hurt. It takes more muscles to frown than to smile. I understand everyone has a bad day but everyday? Naw that's an attitude or an internal issue.

The internal issue could be a major or minor but here are a few: insecurity, jealousy/envy, or just intimidation. Almost every woman has some type of insecurity they deal with deep inside. So if the approaching woman appears to stronger in the area you lack, you may shy away from her. But instead you should open up and ask how she does it or deals with it.

The jealousy/envy issue lives on longer than Tupac. Women hate on each other for the pettiest reasons. Homegirl might have some fly heels, she may be slimmer/thicker, light-skin when you're dark skin, gotta baller man and etc. This list is longer than the DMV line. But the funny thing is someone will always have something you don't. And I hate to bust your bubble but another female is flyerthanyou.com. It's the truth, believe it or not. You need to take notes instead of cracking jokes, to make you feel better about the situation. If she's flyerthanyou.com speak to her so you can swagger-jack her! I'm just saying, be smart about it.

And last but not least intimidation. There are enough people intimidated by black folks already. Why are we intimidated by one another? Probably because speaking isn't the norm like they do in the South. Folks in the South will wave when you drive by unlike the NW, we act like you're not even there. Why is that?

This might also be an issue for men but women have it real bad. It bothers me that my sistas don't reach out as much as Caucasians do. Yes, I know they will go overboard and ask your whole life story but at least they acknowledge you. Hell, Asians can live together 11 deep but some black people don't support one another. Especially when it comes to businesses. Hating prevents us from succeeding, I don't know how many times people have to hear that. But anyway back to the subject....

We as black women need to stick together, support and encourage each other. You never know what networking can do for you or someone else. Being approachable and friendly can get you in more doors. So don't shut it before you see what's on the other side.