Can't We All Just Get Along?

This blog is directed towards black women. I've noticed the majority of us aren't friendly towards each other. If we don't know each other by association or at all, we won't crack a smile or even give eye-contact. Giving a friendly smile won't hurt. It takes more muscles to frown than to smile. I understand everyone has a bad day but everyday? Naw that's an attitude or an internal issue.

The internal issue could be a major or minor but here are a few: insecurity, jealousy/envy, or just intimidation. Almost every woman has some type of insecurity they deal with deep inside. So if the approaching woman appears to stronger in the area you lack, you may shy away from her. But instead you should open up and ask how she does it or deals with it.

The jealousy/envy issue lives on longer than Tupac. Women hate on each other for the pettiest reasons. Homegirl might have some fly heels, she may be slimmer/thicker, light-skin when you're dark skin, gotta baller man and etc. This list is longer than the DMV line. But the funny thing is someone will always have something you don't. And I hate to bust your bubble but another female is flyerthanyou.com. It's the truth, believe it or not. You need to take notes instead of cracking jokes, to make you feel better about the situation. If she's flyerthanyou.com speak to her so you can swagger-jack her! I'm just saying, be smart about it.

And last but not least intimidation. There are enough people intimidated by black folks already. Why are we intimidated by one another? Probably because speaking isn't the norm like they do in the South. Folks in the South will wave when you drive by unlike the NW, we act like you're not even there. Why is that?

This might also be an issue for men but women have it real bad. It bothers me that my sistas don't reach out as much as Caucasians do. Yes, I know they will go overboard and ask your whole life story but at least they acknowledge you. Hell, Asians can live together 11 deep but some black people don't support one another. Especially when it comes to businesses. Hating prevents us from succeeding, I don't know how many times people have to hear that. But anyway back to the subject....

We as black women need to stick together, support and encourage each other. You never know what networking can do for you or someone else. Being approachable and friendly can get you in more doors. So don't shut it before you see what's on the other side.

Tell Me, Tell Me Why

1. Why do people only notice the bad things in your life and not the good?
2. Why are some of the most religious people, the biggest hypocrites?
3. Why do some father's move out of town and leave behind their children?
4. Why do women with no man always want to give relationship advice?
5. Why do men with multiple baby mommas, keep having kids?
6. Why do women a man with multiple baby mommas the time of day?
7. Why do people fight at the club and ruin everybody else's night?
8. Why do women confront mistresses over and over?
9. Why won't men and women ever speak the same language?
10. Why am I asking these questions?
To see if you have the answers. Do You?

Tough Chocolate Candy

Chad Ochocinco & Floyd Maymeather, two athletes taking the spotlight right now. One is tough on the football field and dancing his way into hearts. While the other knocks heads in the ring and breaks hearts on reality shows. All I can say is they both clean up well.

Before and After

Michael Jai White sure hit the jackpot, didn't he? When I came across this picture, I had to post it. His look before Hollywood, had me speechless. As we can see, time and the gym will surely transform you. But check this out....he's so fly. Audience: How fly is he? His wife (an OB-GYN) proposed to him! And I see why. (another picture below)

So Whatcha, Whatcha, Whatcha Want?

Yeah I'm back and wondering "What Do Women Really Want?" And yes this was inspired by the show, "What Chilli Wants." On the show, R&B/Pop star Chilli tries to find a man with her personal matchmaker Tionna Smalls. Chilli has a long, detailed list of what she wants and doesn't want in a man. Now I understand that all women and men should have a few standards. You shouldn't settle for a "Roody Poot," when you deserve Prince Charming. But at the same time a perfect man isn't realistic. I don't believe anyone's man is exactly what they asked for. That's where the "80 -20 Rule" comes in effect. The "80-20 Rule," means you will get 80% of what you want out of your mate and will receive 20% of what you dislike or have to compromise with. But the tricky thing is, if you let go of your 80%, you may receive 20% of what you want from the next mate.
When I first heard the theory on Tyler Perry's, "Why Did I Get Married? Why Did I Get Married Too?" I thought it made so much sense. I bet everybody in a relationship has compromised a few specifics on their checklist. He may be smart and fine but not as wealthy as you want him to be. He's romantic, respectful with a beautiful smile but not very tall.The list can go on and on but I think you get the picture. Don't take this the wrong way! I'm not telling you to finally go out with your annoying co-worker with bad B.O. I'm just saying don't miss out on a good thing. You might be too busy pointing out his flaws to see his fame.